“He doesn’t understand what it means to look after a baby!”
“What doesn’t he get when I ask him not to be home late?!”
“Why won’t he show affection towards our child?”
“Change a nappy? Pffff!”
“You won’t believe it – I got home from yoga at 9pm and our son was still awake EATING TWO MINUTE NOODLES FOR DINNER! THAT’S NOT A DINNER!”
As a mum, I know I have been guilty of hogging the reins sometimes when it comes to caring for Will. The ever-perfectionist, as soon as hubby does something differently to me, I cringe. And then the same outcome occurs, and I think what the hell was I worried about? He’s not going to break him. He’s not going to starve him. He’s not going to leave him out in the rain. I realised that a part of being a great Mum is to be a supportive wife, allowing my husband to grow as a father, just as Will allows me to grow as a Mum. Perhaps some Mummies need to let go of the reins every now and then. Different isn’t always wrong. And two-minute noodles for dinner is ok every now and then.
And Dads will be different. And that doesn’t make them any less of a parent. Something that has reaffirmed my belief in that statement has been my discovery of Daddy Bloggers. I guess Daddy Bloggers are similar to Mummy Bloggers (whatever they are!) but without the scrapbooking, meal planning and estrogen. Often dosed with a whack of wit and a humourous yet educated view on parenting, Daddy blogs have been providing me with a refreshing take on the father psyche, whilst restoring my faith in the opinion that not all Dads are hopeless when it comes to the nitty-gritty of parenthood (a quick shout-out to some of my fav Daddy Blogs at the moment: Reservoir Dad, Distracted Daddy, DadStreet, Backpacking Dad and Luke, I Am Your Father).
So in answer to my earlier question, why the growling and comparing and stereotyping? I still have absolutely no idea. All I do know is that in the words of The Eurythmics (kinda) there are many Dads out there ‘Doin’ it for Themselves’ and it’s about time that Mums (and Mummy Bloggers) started paying attention. So Dads, keep on punching bombs away (lol) and may the Mummy-Force be with you!